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Let me quote a little you wrote. "When you reach the boundary connecting like and love, you know you are ingoing a atypical country. You are clear of inventiveness and infatuation. You know what Shakespeare meant when he called love 'an ever-fixed mark that looks on tempests and is never shaken. '"

On one level, I agree with what you say. But I consider very few of us find what you describe. We end up settling when we reach a point at which we accomplish it is also that or being alone.

I, for one, have never felt what you express and in recent times have come to terms that I will not. I am 50, outgoing, alluring and independent, with two family who are blessings I would never have if I did not "settle. " I know I will never make that blunder again, and I find I am alone and almost certainly constantly will be.

Is love the luck of the draw? Are some of us just luckier than others? Or is it a bit missing in me? I would love to know.

Linda

Linda, sixty years ago the discipline fiction essayist René Barjavel asked what would ensue if you traveled back in time and killed your grandfather ahead of he met your grandmother. Could this happen? If it did, you would not exist, so how could you pass through back in time? This dilemma is known as the grandfather paradox.

When you "settled," how did you know the next man wouldn't have been the complete one for you? How did you know the family wouldn't have been his and your children? When you are of the mindset of settling, you're not belief of love but of other things--marriage, a house, children. You've traded love for a time schedule.

When you "settle" for a house, how many more houses do you visit with your real estate agent? None. How do you know the next house wouldn't be the one of your heart's desire? When you are dating, married to, or pregnant by a man you advanced for, how possible is it you can see or be seen by the one for you?

It would be as easy for us to say your offspring would have been in your future, if you'd waited. Now you want to cut rate this idea again, but you are nearer to it now than when you settled--because now you don't want to settle. This has more to do with patience than with luck. You don't stop demanding to consider your checkbook until belongings balance.

Perhaps it is your fate to come to this calculating now. Why could this not crop up for you now? Why not tomorrow or next month or next year? When you are alive your life fully, engaging with others, aware what you want, why not now?

Wayne & Tamara

Theoretically Speaking

My association on track off as a anniversary romance and has had agitate budding into a customary relationship. We met in Spain and fell for each other immediately. We were both over the moon, but when we moved in together, clothes began to deteriorate.

He wasn't sure what he wanted. I felt neglected and reacted badly by contacting an old flame. He thinks I nag. Once, in a rage, I told him I don't want to be with him anymore. Now he's angry and refuses to speak to me until he thinks belongings through. It upsets me since I know we're both very much in love, but no be important what we do we can't seem to make it work.

Jayne

Jayne, in art competing theories are veteran alongside each other to agree on which is true. You accept as true you and your boyfriend are in love. That is your claim.

We have an choice hypothesis. It was a feast fling. On our side we point to verbal rage, nagging, confusion, and unfaithfulness. What confirmation is there for your theory?

Wayne & Tamara

Direct Answers - Editorial for the week of September 20, 2004

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